Kylie Andersen Psychotherapy & Counselling
Psychotherapist & Counsellor, Inner West Sydney
Helping sensitive & thoughtful folk who feel stuck, get unstuck
You’ve tried lots of things: self-help books, social media advice, nervous system strategies. And maybe it kind of works for a while (or not), but then you’re back in the same loop again. If that sounds familiar, therapy can help – providing a fresh set of eyes, a kind and curious companion, and the experience of a different kind of relationship.
Feeling stuck tends to show up in specific ways.
It might be one of these, or a few at once:
Relationships.
- feeling stuck in an unhappy relationship
- wanting a relationship but it never seems to work out
- you seem to keep choosing people who aren’t right for you
Work.
- drifted into rather than chosen
- shaped by others’ expectations rather than your own
- knowing something needs to change but not feeling certain about what that is
Relationship with food & body.
- noticing that you often use food to help with your emotions
- spending a ton of energy thinking about food because you worry a lot about how your body looks
- feeling intense worry about others’ judgements of you
Going through the motions.
- a feeling of flatness about life, as though it could be better, more ‘you’, but you’re not sure how to get there
- having periods of time where you feel low or anxious, life feels off and it’s hard to get back to yourself
Hard to break habits.
- feeling stuck in ways of coping that have begun to cause problems
- this could be things you do, like trying to keep everyone happy, feeling anxious if you’re not busy, or losing yourself in distraction
- it could be noticing you have a very loud, harsh inner critic
A loss of yourself.
- a feeling of not being quite sure who you are, or what it is that you need and want
- this might show up as chronic procrastination, or trouble making decisions
"The work isn't about changing yourself. It's about knowing & accepting who you are, & from there, change follows."
We slow things down & get curious about what's going on underneath.
A lot of the patterns that keep us stuck showed up for good reasons. They were ways of coping, of protecting ourselves, of keeping connection with the people who mattered. In therapy, we look at these patterns with lots of curiosity and kindness, rather than trying to override them.
01. Understanding your patterns
We notice your patterns, explore how they formed, & look at the deeper beliefs about yourself & the world that sit beneath them.
02. Working with your whole experience
We explore & understand your thoughts & feelings as well as noticing what’s happening in your body.
03. The relationship between us
The relationship between us is part of the work. We use it to notice how you relate, uncover blind spots, and create a different kind of relationship experience.
Change in this kind of work tends to be subtle and gradual rather than arriving with a bang. You might start to notice:
- You make decisions more easily
- You show up differently in relationships
- You know your needs & wants, & feel more able to voice them
- You trust yourself more, & look less to others for reassurance
- You treat yourself with more kindness
- You are more able to notice your experience and pause before you respond
I'm Kylie, a psychotherapist & counsellor based in Ashfield in Sydney's Inner West.
I’m a therapist, yep, the kind that asks you about your childhood (it really does work) and I help sensitive, thoughtful adults who feel stuck, get unstuck.
I too am a sensitive type who felt stuck, and for me, a great therapist was a big part of what helped me find my groove.
I believe the world is a way better place when we get to be ourselves. I love this work because it’s about discovering, not fixing, who you are.
As your therapist, I’m your kind, ever-curious co-explorer.
Gradually, gently, we get to know your inner world. No doubt you’ve been doing it on your own for a while – I bring a fresh set of eyes (and ears) as well as a space that is wholly yours, where you can pour it all out (at a pace that feels right for you, of course).
And as we talk, something else is happening too – your body, your whole self, is feeling what it’s like to be ‘seen’, to not be so alone, which can bring another layer of healing.
Over time, people are more able to notice when old reactions are running the show, and to make different choices. They’re calmer, more able to accept themselves, even the parts they’ve previously hated. And when life gets wobbly (which it will, because… life!) they feel more equipped to handle it.
Life begins to move again, and feel more 'right'
Want to get a sense of whether we'd work well together?
I offer a free 15-minute phone chat. No pressure, just a chance to ask questions & see how it feels.